Last week we shared some tips on how to help someone in a domestic violence situation, but sometimes there  isn’t violence present but power and control issues and emotional abuse can be just as harmful. Here are some tips to handle those situations. If you would like to see our video on this topic click here. If you notice a difference in personality or distance from family and friends. Excuses for behavior and/or symptoms of anxiety and depression these might be some signs of abuse.

Tip #1: Realize it can be hard to identify mental and emotional abuse be cause it is often times be covert. It can come in the form of snide remarks in the beginning. Statements made to breakdown ones sense of self to reprogram thoughts of doubt and reliance on the abuser. Signs of abuse may vary but red flags are typically present.

Tip #2: Self esteem and self worth are often impacted due to abuse. Unfortunately, those who experience abuse as adults usually experience it as children. Working on yourself and finding ways to improve your self image help you find the strength to overcome the things you’ve been through. This article describes more about the effects.

Tip #3: Trouble trusting yourself and others is another effect of abuse. Physical abuse is blatant and unquestionable. There is something about mental and emotional abuse that really makes you question what you think you know. Click here for a resource to help you untwist your thinking .

Tip #4: It’s not your fault and you can heal from it. It is really important to find support. There are plenty of options such as counseling, coaching, groups, books, podcasts, family and friends. A combination of more than one of these can foster an environment conducive to your healing. There is no shame in getting help.

Challenge- Identify a healthy relationship you have. How do you know it’s healthy? 

Challenge- Challenge your myths around abuse (emotional isn’t as bad. If there’s no violence it’s ok...)

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